I live in what is commonly referred to as a two-storey walk up. The two upstairs flats are inhabited by single women, one a young, well educated professional who is polite and kind. The other is in her fifties and lives at the behest of the government. She is mentally ill and in the time she has been here, she has had outbursts and threatened suicide, which brought members of the sheriff's department to our community. Additionally, she is prone to telling outrageous stories--the products of her strange and twisted mind. She is supposed to be on medication, but having seen her either high or drunk many times over the past six months, I wonder if she is taking it at all or whether it is working in the presence of other substances.
While I might normally feel sorry for an individual in such circumstances, this woman has told neighbours that I sometimes look as if I'm on crack and that I'm faking being disabled, both of which are untrue. She has also said everyone here is out to get her and that she is spied upon, among other things. She has awakened me in the darkest hours of the night screaming obscenities on the stairs or at my door to the point that I've now put the sheriff on speed dial.
Last week, this escalated to vandalism, when amid a loud and steady stream of curses, she lobbed expensive jarred marinara sauce at my door. I discovered the mess the next morning and notified our management and the sheriff's office. The culprit, when cornered by the deputy, lied, but since she is now known to his department, he knew better. She's been quiet since his extremely confrontational warning, and the mess was promptly cleared. Her landlord will receive the clean up charges. I spoke to the landlord briefly. She no longer communicates with this tenant, but calls her twenty-something daughter instead. The daughter informed me that her mother has been between doctors and therefore without medication. Since she rarely shows her face here and seemed rather clueless, I simply told her that I would inform that part of the government that subsidizes housing for the poor here.
This tenant's landlord says she's "attention seeking." I see her as a manipulative liar. Prior to the sheriff's arrival, she flounced down the stairs, took one look at her handiwork and declared, "Let's see if she lets me out of my lease now, ha, ha." Another neighbour also witnessed this.
Had she not made this remark, I might have conceded that this tenant did not know what she was doing in the early hours of the morning. However, the tone and nature of her remark indicate otherwise and she had no right to bring her problems with her landlord to my door, nor has she the right to scream loudly enough to awaken someone at 1:30 AM.
If the state and her doctors find her able to live freely, then she should be just as free to face the consequences of her actions. I have no problem with the subsidy for housing, disability payments or food stamps. What is problematic is indirectly subsidizing her cigarettes, booze and whatever other swill this woman chooses to ingest. Furthermore, her lease was renewed in May, and unless she was forced to sign a new agreement under duress, wanting to be free of this contract makes no sense. Her landlord once lived in this apartment and kept it immaculate. The landlord is a retired individual, now enjoying the stability of a monthly government check for the rental of this flat, a situation she isn't likely to change unless something more drastic occurs.
I am enjoying the relative quiet for the first time in months, but fear it won't last long and worry about what other tricks "Bellowing Beulah" may pull. I no longer talk to her and avoid going outside when she is on the stairs. I have put a call into a mental health professional in an attempt to get more information about how to handle this situation. While I await a return call, I have also spoken to a property manager and realtor who has indicated a willingness to help me find another flat with a more open floor plan. This may take some time, but current circumstances compel me to at least look around. The photo below is one of several another neighbour and I took to document the vandalism.
Until Next Time...
9 comments:
That is dreadful.
The only bright side to it is the offer to help you find a flat more suited to you....
You'll go mad if you try to apply logic and sense to combat mentally ill thinking. Save yourself, however you best can.
Wow! That's horrible! What a nightmare. I hope this situation resolves somehow. It's too bad this woman's daughter isn't more hands-on with her mother's care. I also remember Reagan and his gutting of residential mental health facilities -- the legacy lives on!
What a horrendous situation. She's obviously out of her mind and impossible to reason with, which makes it hard to know what to do about her. You may have read my post about Jenny's old schoolfriend, who was equally unstable and irrational and given to lying about herself and her neighbours. It was increasingly difficult to find her accommodation where she would feel at home and not be a constant nuisance to everyone around her. It's absurd that you should have to move out, but it may be the only solution.
Poor you. Have you heard of a borderline personality disorder? Your neighbour fits the profile quite accurately xx
How awful for you. Regardless of the cause of her 'problems' it is absolutely wrong that it has also become your problem. I've heard similar tales so often from other people, including in this community. May you be rid of her in your life.
Sounds to me like schizophrenia and if I were you, since she's not medicated right now, I'd make myself invisible unless you want her to totally fixate on you. Do not confront her but show no fear either. Just avoid being in her presence, alone most of all!! Even when followed by a therapist, in many cases, when they start feeling better with their meds, they stop taking it, thinking they don't need it anymore, but they do need their mood to be equalized... and some go off the deep end, become violent, if not worse. Don't mean to frighten you but it is a good thing this was reported to the sheriff. As I said before, stay away from her. Don't try being the good samaritan and help!! Not your field of expertise... Trust me!! I've seen too many in a state of psychosis to think this can be taken mildly. Keep well!!
HUGZ
What a monster. Can you take out an injunction against her? I'm not sure if that is possible in all countries.
Good advice from Ticklebear. Steer clear of her, while remaining vigilant and working behind the scenes.
Thanks also for dropping in at my place. From the bizarre/trivial/funny with me to the deadly serious life challenges and dilemmas with you.
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